I am so depressed and overwhelmed. I have two children. A son and daughter. My daughter is 25 and just got married on lLbor day. She has a pattern of going from boyfriend to boyfriend; the last boyfriend, after knowing him a year, she married. She always criticizes me, mocks me, tells me I need help, etc. My husband passed away 8 years ago, she constantly tells me I did not move on which I think she means by moving on that I don't have a man in my life. I work two jobs to help my son through college. My daughter had every opportunity to go to college; and twice she did not go to classes; so I lost money on the classes because she flunked out basically. I have given her money all her life, bailed her out of jams; she had a dog with a boyfriend; and when she broke up, he wanted money for the dog since he put it on his charge. I got the dog and paid for it as well. She has had many abusive boyfriends. She also has had many nice boyfriends; but she always gets bored and moves on. She is a party girl; tells me I am no fun; too serious, and I have no life. She constantly puts me down; tells me I am annoying. The latest is that she decided she no longer likes to talk on the phone, so she doesn't answer her cell phone. I cannot call at work because she said she cannot have personal calls there. She will not return calls even if I leave a voice mail. She told me that if I want to talk to her, I can call her husband's cell phone. The only wait I can communicate with her is through email. She told me the other day that I am annoying; I haven't moved on with my life, I should sell my house and get a life. I am devastated. I have been there for all her problems, helped her financially, and since she married her latest boyfriend after knowing him just a year, she has cut me off. Her husband, and his parents comes from a big family. They also do a lot of partying; and she told me I am boring and my side of the family is boring. She told me that I need my own life; and don't depend on her. I have given her everything; and nothing is ever enough. My son told me to quit begging for her to love me and quit calling. I am just afraid if I stop calling or email, we will lose touch.
After her Dad died, she just turned on me. He had a brain tumor; there was nothing no one could do. It was no one's fault. I feel she blames me. She told me in eight years I have not moved on. I have supported my two children, went back to school, got a master's degree and now am a computer teacher. I work full time and part-time also at night at a college. I feel I accomplished alot and moved on. No I do not have a boyfriend yet, but I have been trying to educate myself, make sure I had a job, and have been now helping my son with his college. I never drink; it always gave me a headache, I do not take drugs, never was abusive, and I am now trying to quit smoking. I feel I have tried so hard to make sure my children were happy. My daughter just drinks all the time; and she likes her new family because they drink too. At her wedding, even though I paid for all of it, I was not included in the plans; her mother-in-law was. I was not even invited over to the mother's house and she had the rehearsal dinner which was pizza. It was at her sister's house. I paid for the entire wedding. I paid for three years of college which she never finished. I always supported her; been there for her; and she tells me I am negative. I know she charges everything in sight. She now tells me I gave my son more than her, I should pay off her school loans. I cannot do that right now. I gave her every opportunity to get a degree and get educated. I put up with countless unpleasant boyfriends; and some were very rough types and scared me. Her husband who I really don't know him to well; she met him at work; seems okay so far. I can't say for sure.
She yells and screams at me in front of him, mocks me telling me I should get a life, all I do is work, and still pine after my late husband. I do miss my late husband; but I have accepted the cards I have been dealt I did get professional counseling over this event. I never thought in my entire life my daughter would turn on me. My mother who is now in a nursing home always favored my daughter and loved her so much. My daughter never even calls her grandmother. She is all for this new family; I don't know them well enough to say anything about them. I noticed at the wedding and a few other times, they like to drink alot so my daughter loves it. I never did approve of my daughter drinking so much and have told her I was concerned for her. She told me if I drank a bit, I wouldn't be so miserable.

I don't know what to do, She told me I was annoying today and she had no interest in seeing me for the holidays. I feel like a fool. Last week, she told me she was behind in her bills, I helped her out financially again. I guess I was buying her love. My son and I have talked about this; and he told me she is so cold and that he feels she does not have any empathy for anyone and cannot see any situation from another perspective. I just am so sad. I lost my husband and now I feel I am losing my daughter. I just feel how much can I endure already?

I called her today and told her I want to have a relationship with her; and what can I do? She just snarled and sighed and told me that talking to me is not what she wants to do. She had to go. I was completely devastated. The only thing that helped me was reading these blogs and talking to my son today who told me to quit chasing her.

I wish I knew what to do? Marie22