My daughter and I have been very close her whole life. Her dad and I are divorced. I got sole custody because of some of his outbursts and violence. Her father was never there for her. She is 17 now and I found out that right under my nose he has been bad mouthing me on the phone with her. We were planning on college tours and all of a sudden I was totally taken out of the mix. She has called me a ""cking b**ch, cu**, and worse. She has treated me horribly. I have done everything for her, been there for her. Every time I would try to discipline her her father would undermine me, sending her money. When I took her texting away he sent her an i-phone. He has basically done everything that he could to make me out to be the wicked witch. She told me her friend's mom has been more of a mom to her than I ever could be. It cut like a knife. He is also supposed to have supervised visitation and she went to see him without my permission. I called to talk to her before she left and she told me to mind my fu**ing business. I am sure she has bad mouthed me to everyone there and told them all how bad of a mother I have been. On top of everything my own sister threw me under the bus as my daughter has been staying there with no supervision and talking with my ex behind my back. They set her up with a car without my permission. Sister sent her away to visit him without my permission. I am just devastated. My daughter would never speak to my ex like she speaks to me. He is wonderful in her eyes because he is constantly throwing money and things her way. Anytime I have tried to discipline her, he just throws something else her way. Today was the first time that we did not spend Thanksgiving together. She did not even call me. I have never told her father that he could not see her. In fact, I used up plenty of my own vacations so that he could. Did the same so that she could see his mother, who he hates. I am having to let it all go. I have tried and tried but I cannot turn the other cheek any longer. Every time I am hopeful something else happens and she is ugly to me once again and then I am back to square 1 with the hurt. The bottom line is that I would not treat a cockroach the way that she has treated me and I cannot make any more excuses. No one should be treated like that. I love her more than life itself but I cannot have any more contact with her as it is just eating me alive. He is loving this because he is so vindictive and what he doesn't realize is what it is doing to our daughter. My mother and father are both gone. Today I really could have used my mom's help. To think that my own sister could have done this to me also. I don't even want to go to her graduation as I don't want her humiliating me any further. I just never thought that it would be so easy for her to turn on me and feel no remorse at all about treating me this way. I am so thankful for good friends as that is what has gotten me through so far. My heart is absolutely breaking but I just have to let it go. I am sorry for everyone here as there is nothing like the heartbreak of losing someone who you love so very much.

Hi everyone I am new here. I have had problems with my daughter since she was 16 she is now 30. We have grown apart over the years but I have tried very hard to keep the bond between us strong. She has 2 children who I adore. She parted from he first partner the father of her little girl due to her having an affair and getting pregnant with my grandson. The pregnancy was a nightmare but after she and the father got together as a couple. To say I have found her life style choices stressful is putting it mildly but I have always supported her and loved her. I adore my Grandchildren and I cannot do enough for them. I am at a place in my life where I am very happily re-married and content but my daughter seems intent on running me down and belittling me at every opportunity. Its like she hates me but I don't know why! The last straw came at the weekend when we had my granddaughter overnight and took her for breakfast the next morning and she informed me that her mother "Hates Me". She is 5 years old and I am sickened by this. I had it out with her and apparently its all my fault and I should get a grip! I have had enough this time, I am so upset I cant even bring myself to talk to her even though its her 30th birthday tomorrow and I had planned loads of stuff.....Where did it all go wrong?

Please help me my daughter lives with a "control Freak" who has totally poisoned my daughter against me I never liked him from the first day I ever set eyes on him,and now she has chosen to make her life with him,she has 2 children1 boy whom I have not seen since he was a baby crawling(he is now 7) and agirl 4 who I didn't even know she was having until I saw Congratulations in the births in my local paper from his family my son commited suicide 7 years ago and she says It's my fault! I now have no one left,my husband is'nt her father she sees her own father (myex husband) regularly I believe but he was the one who left me to bring them up on my own because he had someone else.I feel nothing but pure hatred toward this man with whom she has made her life ,I gave her and her brother the best years of my life strugling to bring them up on my own and this is my repayment ,,,,,His parents are reaping all the rewards of my daughters affection and my two grandchildren.I am at my wits end even after all this time. Lisa, if only you knew what you have done to me!

OKAY!!! You do what you have to do Plus it is great therapy to study! ITS ALL ABOUT YOU NOW!!! And you tell yourself everyday ITS ALL ABOUT ME!!!! I deserve happiness and success and I will laugh in the face of the evil SOBS!!!! I am here pulling for you Please Know that!!! And dont you worry you are doing anything wrong on this thread. There is no wrongs when you are reaching out for help and support! WE are all always just an email away! Please Know that!!!

Ahhhh My Dear sweet Confessa! You are not whining you are Shocked! hearbroken! Feel betrayed by people you thought would never ever do this to you. Youre Angry and Youre hurt. All Normal Darling. And All OKAY! And so what if you having a pity party. You are entitled too!!! I was told when I lost my eyesight from My stroke that I use it to be dramatic. I am A Drama Queen you know because Now I am partially blind, cant work and my driving is limited. Except for my husband I have to say basically every one I have loved in my life has let me down. HOWEVER!!!!! They wont Put me down! Or TELL Me How to Live! Honey youre stronger then you think!!!! You have already endured the hurt and humilation. Gues What: the rest is a walk in the park unless you ALLOW it to swallow you up! And I think just the fact you found this site and youre typing about it You are going down Kicking and screaming which means you will be back up!!! All You need is One good friend! You dont 20 family members or phonies or useless losers in your life. Just one good friend. And turn that anger and hate and shock into something positive. YES ITS DIFFICULT!!!! Took Me 6 months to accept this BS and decide its my life or let them win and bury me with a Broken heart. No Way!!!! NO ONE IS WORTH YOUR LIFE even a clueless child who you gave and sacrificed for most of your life. They have just proven it means nothing to them. Time to cut the cord no matter how much it hurts. Pray some day they get it. Even tho In My heart I believe my stupid daughter at 38 years old is way beyond getting it, because like I said They set up and create their own dynamis: they think suddenly the lives they just horrible!!! Remember ROSE ANNE BARR years back decided her father was no good because she claims he was molesting her as an Infant? PLEASE!!!! OUR Kids are the Drama Queens not us. Because all the kids today need excuses to justify their own failures or unhappiness they decide to pin it on their parents or one parent. I see this alot and hear it here all the time! Realize you are OKAY and you are going to be okay!!! Get some assistance it is out their financially! If it means moving into one room and slinging burgers at McDonalds until you find something better then so be it! You will find you feel much better about yourself! Dont worry what others think or say because when you come back with a vengence of strength they will pick up their toys and move to another sand box because you wont be fun to pick on anymore! Move away and forget them all. baby Steps I believe you can do it!!! And You feel free to whine here or bitch and moan all you want!!! No one here is judging you we have all walked in your shoes same story different day! Please keep me posted!!! I will try to check daily because I dont receives notifications for some reason until days after things are posted! Go Figure!!!!

Ok Ladies I am going to try to lift your spirits. It is Now 6 months My daughter has not spoken to me and if you scan back a few pages you will see the hell I have endured from her, her husband and his Mean vicious family for the last 8 years! Confessa I would love to say to you that just keep loving them and they eventually get over it: I'm sorry they are clueless. I have allowed my daughter to verbally abuse me, humiliate me plus she has bad mouthed me to her in laws ,her husband and I never even knew this was going on until the Sh*t hit the fan this may! She is 38 and She is manipulated and convinced, My husband and I are the 2 most horrible people working the earth. She went from my loving daughter and best friend to my worst enemy and nightmare! I'm sorry to say but sometimes tough Love Just Must come into play! You Know in your heart the sacrifices you made and the life you did you're very best to give your child. Believe me you are not alone in this grief and hurt and anger!! But It will only kill you If you allow it. I am done. I prayed to God to give me the strength to get over this because every Olive branch i have tried to throw out in the first 3 months was turned into something ugly and twisted by my daughter and her inlays. So Now I am finally at peace because my demise would make them all so happy! Pick yourself up dust yourself off and if need be see a counselor!! Its Ok to cry and be sad but its not okay to be like that for the rest of your life!!! You cannot Change people So here are some words I have come to Live by : I've learned in my old age that those who matter most, are taken far too soon, And those who matter least are too damn stupid to realize it ! And some who use to matter suddenly believe they never did. I do not have the time and Energy to debate their warped conclusions: ]There is not enough hours in the day to fix them.You can’t change other people, the realities they create or the dynamics they set up! I have Come to realize that in the Vast Landscape of my Interior Life Some people are just a mere spec of dust and need to remain as such! Life is what you make it and who you surround yourself with on a daily basis is what defines you. Actions or( Lack of) SPEAK LOUDER then Words. Talk is cheap and can only hurt you if you allow it along with the people who Twist your words and theirs . People get over being angry: But They Do not get over being hurt. My daughter has hurt me more then I could ever have imagined in my life. And It is 8 years now And the hurt only worsens which is Why I finally chose to walk away And the Best part is She spews hatred on her FB page and We have not spoken in actually over 6 months now. So who is making her miserable? Sometimes you must remove yourself from the equation to see it really isn't you upsetting them They just think we are their punching bags because we give unconditional love. Guess what We are only Human and you can only beat us just so much before it truly becomes old!!..

Hi I can so relate to some of the post.I read here.I am 56 years young.I lost my job and have been having a hard time moneywise.I gave up my apartment bescause my daughter the oldest said mom bone live with me.I have two boys the oldest just got married.The youngest lives in a group home.Everything that she said she wouldn't do she did.And everything she said she would help me with she didn't.
There has been so much drama.I tell her how she treats her children zip am starting trouble.I tell her about her abusvie men over and over again and she should not bring them around the kids three girls1612,4and one son 10 She call me bitch talks rude,yells at love to tell people I walk around with the Bible.Ms.Judgement she fry's every way she can to break my spirit
She keeps bringing g up she isn't 12.And I keep asking her what so badhappen to you at 12 no anwser she say one thing does another
She even post a video of me on Facebook singing with my ear buds.She says I was singing to loud.She is now off my Facebook page.She has given me the phone number for a sheleter.She knows that IA no transportion here.She drives everyone where they had to go but me.The people I have warned here about have proved me right.What I don't understand is why you would say you will help some one and then give them your butt to kiss.She says I only love my boyswhen I know I have helped her in many ways.She doesn't cook I or my oldest grand do.Unless her excuse of a man comes she cooks,drives him anywhere.I am tried of being treated like her dog!