Thanks LostinSweden.. I am trying to move on but it is really hard. At the moment she is planning her Highschool Graduation with her boyfriends mother and is taking her to her Graduation. I just feel soooo cheated and sad that I get to miss being involved in this special moment seeing as I am the one who paid for her education sending her to a private school- I am her mum not her , I should be there watching her all proud. I dont even know what colour her dress is.

I just keep thinking get used to it this is just the beginning. God knows how many life events I will miss, maybe all of them.

I know I have to buck up and I am trying to do it but boy it is soooo hard. I have my good days but then I also have my very bad days.

I think the lies are the worst, the hurtful betrayal from someone you love the most is so hard to come to terms with.

You are right when I think of my girl I think of my little girl not the malicious teenage that exists today.

My girl has gone even if she ever does contact me again, how do I forget the hurt, the lies, the betrayal the constant humiliation.

WHy me why my daughter what did I do wrong love her too much spoil her too much, this isnt how it is supposed to go.

Anyway I am going to get thru this and I will be a better person a stronger person but that doesnt mean I wont have days when I feel life just is crap. Thats life to feel joy you must feel pain, it is how you deal with it that makes you what you are.

So I am going to get stronger hopefully thats what I wish for. I thank you all for allowing me to vent it does help to know I am not alone. Please all stay strong and safe ......and hopefully happier

Okie......now you're talkin! Hold your head up high and keep it there ! Refuse to join in these power struggle games with her. Focuss on you and those that dearly love you. Keep going.

Hi all I am new here and found this by typing my daughter hates me into the search bar... I have a 14 year old who wishes I were dead, says the only thing in life she wants is to be away from me. I ask her why and all she can say is your a bi&*h never a real answer. I am hurt angry lost beside myself at this point I have tried all approaches and none worked. I have to get to sleep but I will write tomorrow and tell the whole story or shortened version maybe if I find peace someday it will help someone else do the same! Goodnight all <3

I know I need to focus o my two biological children that love me with all their hearts and have never been anything but kind and respectful to me. My youngest adopted daughter is only 16. She just turned 16 last March and dropped the bomb on us that she was pregnant. Her boyfriend and her talked us into letting them marry. She lost the baby and they have fought like cats and dogs. They have split up because of the fighting. I was just getting lined out and doing better with my guilt for letting them marry and she moves back home packing an attitude that " I am married and will do as I please". She wouldn't get up and go to school. We got her into alternative night school and was helping her get a job in a daycare. She could go to school at her own pace and graduate next May. Last nite was to be her first night. She lied to us and went off with some friend and her mom. We went to the school and she wasn't there. I told her she had 1 hour to come get her stuff or I was hauling it to Goodwill. She said she couldn't get a ride and how could I do that to her? I have her locked out of the house while I am at work and her clothes are bagged up in the barn. I just can't take anymore of her, but am in anguish over sher being gone. She was sending updates to Facebook and upsetting all our friends and family. I called the phone company and had that feature blocked on her fone as well as the picture msg feature because of her nasty pics. My next step should be to turn her cell fone off since she won't txt or call me anyway but I do hate to lose that hope of communication? I don't know maybe I am touched in the head. she is 16...no job, no drivers license, no car, no money,and please don't say how could I let her get married that young. I know that was stupid and want to die to absolve myself of the guilt of it. i just don't know how to function and live anymore. I am going to lose my marriage, job, and other children if I don't find a way to get over it and get tough.

It is like riding a roller coaster. One minute you think you are fine and then it hits and you want to curl up in a ball and die. It is not fair that one person can cause you so much pain.

Lostinsweden I like your last post, my mother keeps telling me the same thing that my girl has to learn what real life is really like and that one day she will come back.

Everyone says she will come back one day. But deep down inside I have this terrible dread that maybe she wont, what if that happens!

I just cant imagine never talking to or being apart of my girls life ever again. I just keep asking myself why what did I do wrong, I gave her everything, she was everything now I am nothing to her my life is in hell right now I struggle everyday just to function normally.

I am just so tired of crying and feeling like crap the thought of feeling like this for years fills me with dread.

I can try to forget busy myself cleaning the house or at work then someone asks me how are things going have I heard from her yet and whamm all the emotions are there right under the surface just waiting to engulf me.

I am new to this website and forum. I am beyond upset, depressed and devastated because my daughter, age13 hates me as well. Long story short, I ended a bad marriage 7 years ago, remarried in 2009 and I am pregnant with my 3rd child. My daughter has refused to accept the pregnancy, and I understand that, being the baby for so long. It seems like she now goes out of her way to be as hurtful as possible towards me. I would get angry with her over this, but nothing phases her, she could care less if I cry, or if I am angry. My ex-husband and I have had our differences, but he is a big part of our lives, and continues to be. We have always put our children first despite our differences and we co-parent very effectively. He is supportive of my efforts to try to make my relationship with my daughter better. But she just doesn't care. My daughter has a great relationship with both her father and her stepfather. It is me who she has issues with. She refuses counseling and states that she hates babies and kids and does not want anything to do with the baby. At times, all I do is cry, because I feel like a part of me has died without my daughter's love. Sometimes I et very angry and want to punish her, though I know this will push her away from me. I do not know what to do at this point and I am looking for help. Your thoughts?