My Daughter says I am a burden, not a mom

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:(Hello to all,

I have a 27 yr. old youngest daughter. She became pregnant at 15yrs. of age. At the time I was still with my now ex husband, who is a narcissist sociopath. She lived with us for a while until my husband made her choose whom to live with. She chose him, and his mom's. She has always compared me to his Mom, who acts like a friend, dresses like she is a teen. Now? After making 4 babies with the first abusive live in boyfriend, (well, one died at birth)..
Now, she has had another baby with this guy she knew from school. She got married at the courthouse, and is having this elaborate wedding in June. Well, she once was a loving, caring Daughter. She hardened with her first boyfriend. Yet, when she was little, and I wanted to leave my abusive spouse? He would not let me have her.
Anyways, I went to a doc. appointment. Was in bad section of town, when my back tire blew. I called my oldest daughter. Her vehicle would not run. I tried to
call youngest daughter, but she very, seldom answers her cell phone from me. Anyways, I got a towing co number from oldest daughter. Got home, and called Clarissa, Y.D.
I had to ask her why she could not have come and got me?
She began screaming at me. Then, while at walmart I began
having bladder pain, and in my right flank. ( she worked
at the urology place in which I called and spoke to the nurse, who said have someone take you to the hospital.
When I called Clarissa, y.d. She told me "You are not acting like a person with Kidney Stones, you just have a uti. Just drive yourself to the closest hospital, (bad one by me). I told her I could not drive because of the pain. Well, she wondered, "How did you get home?" I had to tell her barely. She said she was busy with a test, and would not take me, even after her test. I finally told her: " Okay, now I know where I rank with you."
I called one of her friends who is suppose to be a christian girl. She told me, "Clarissa does not see you as a mom. She sees you as a burden to her."
Y.D. always been jealous person. Also, her father raised her. He would not let me. Yet, there were times when I was close to her. Now? Her new husband tells her what to say, and she does. But, she had started being hateful to me prior to being with her first boyfriend.
My heart just can not take any more of the pain she dishes out. I have tried to change, be there for her,
and I was there with her when she thought she had cancer.
Then? I began having a lot of physical problems. Tons.
She only took me one time to an appointment. Which she throws in my face all the time.
This is very mentally tiring. What would you do?
Help is needed...
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My Daughter says I am a burden, not a mom

Feb 12, 2009 3:54 PM
:(Hello to all,

I have a 27 yr. old youngest daughter. She became pregnant at 15yrs. of age. At the time I was still with my now ex husband, who is a narcissist sociopath. She lived with us for a while until my husband made her choose whom to live with. She chose him, and his mom's. She has always compared me to his Mom, who acts like a friend, dresses like she is a teen. Now? After making 4 babies with the first abusive live in boyfriend, (well, one died at birth)..
Now, she has had another baby with this guy she knew from school. She got married at the courthouse, and is having this elaborate wedding in June. Well, she once was a loving, caring Daughter. She hardened with her first boyfriend. Yet, when she was little, and I wanted to leave my abusive spouse? He would not let me have her.
Anyways, I went to a doc. appointment. Was in bad section of town, when my back tire blew. I called my oldest daughter. Her vehicle would not run. I tried to
call youngest daughter, but she very, seldom answers her cell phone from me. Anyways, I got a towing co number from oldest daughter. Got home, and called Clarissa, Y.D.
I had to ask her why she could not have come and got me?
She began screaming at me. Then, while at walmart I began
having bladder pain, and in my right flank. ( she worked
at the urology place in which I called and spoke to the nurse, who said have someone take you to the hospital.
When I called Clarissa, y.d. She told me "You are not acting like a person with Kidney Stones, you just have a uti. Just drive yourself to the closest hospital, (bad one by me). I told her I could not drive because of the pain. Well, she wondered, "How did you get home?" I had to tell her barely. She said she was busy with a test, and would not take me, even after her test. I finally told her: " Okay, now I know where I rank with you."
I called one of her friends who is suppose to be a christian girl. She told me, "Clarissa does not see you as a mom. She sees you as a burden to her."
Y.D. always been jealous person. Also, her father raised her. He would not let me. Yet, there were times when I was close to her. Now? Her new husband tells her what to say, and she does. But, she had started being hateful to me prior to being with her first boyfriend.
My heart just can not take any more of the pain she dishes out. I have tried to change, be there for her,
and I was there with her when she thought she had cancer.
Then? I began having a lot of physical problems. Tons.
She only took me one time to an appointment. Which she throws in my face all the time.
This is very mentally tiring. What would you do?
Help is needed...