My 17 year old daughter says she is gay

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My 17yr old daughter told me that she is a lesbian after being with a guy for 2years. She is very involved with this girl on line that I really don't get a good feeling about. When the two times that my daughter did try to leave the girl on line she went nuts told her that she was going to kill herself even showed my daughter that she was cutting her self. My daughter thinks that this is love. She wants nothing to do with me she wants me out of her life. I trying very hard to do just that but I also don't want her hurt. I know that there is no other way out of this but to let her fall but as a mother it is very hard. She states that I don't love her and all I do is give her anxiety attacks. Please help me to be strong with her
Last Post May 24, 2011 2:00 PM by: HERCULES
HERCULES
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From: MEXICO
Registered: 5/24/11
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Re: My 17 year old daughter says she is gay

May 24, 2011 2:00 PM
WITH ALL DUE RESPECT
I BELIEVE THAT THE ATTENTION OF TEEN SEXUAL OBEYS TO A NOT TO A TRADITIONALORIENTATION BUT ALSO TO A LACK OF COMMUNICATION WITH PARENTS LIKE INFLUENCE DETECTED AND LACK OF RIGIDITY IN CERTAIN ACTIVITIES FOR OCCUPATION OR DISTRACTION OF THE PARENTS.

I BELIEVE THAT THE SELF ESTEEM IS IMPORTANT TO THE ADOLESCENT, HOWEVER THE CRITERIA AND MATURITY TO GENERATE DATA BASE OF EVALUATION DEFINITIONS AND PERSONAL LIFE, FOR TAXATION
I THINK YOU SHOULD GIVE HER THE OPPORTUNITY TO CONVERSE WITH OTHERS THAT HAVE HAD THE EXPERIENCE AND ITS CONSEQUENCES, ALSO CLEAR THAT THE ACTION TO EVERY BODY WHO TAKE WITH HIS LIFE OR THEIR RESPONSIBILITY ARE FAULT OF THE SAME PERSON AND OTHER, SO ITEM THREATS FOR LESBIAN COUPLE of self harm, AND IF YOU HAVE TO BE RESPONSIBLE WITH IT COME TO THIS LEVEL OF DEPENDENCE AND SUBMISSION, YOUR DAUGHTER COULD DECIDE BEST BUT NO PRESSURE TO FREEDOM After listening, ALSO WE AS PARENTS COUNSELORS BUT NEVER punishers, because THAT IS THE ONLY THING THAT SUBTRACT US VALUE AND QUALITY AGAINSTS TO OUR CHILDREN.
IF WE HASN´T RESOLVED IN TIME NOW WE MOST SOLVE IT tolerating the consequences.

GOOD LUCK
BLESSINGS
desireestar
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From: usa
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Re: My 17 year old daughter says she is gay

Apr 11, 2010 10:21 AM
I don't know, but I'm searching for answers on what to do with an 18 year old son who insists he's going to visit someone across the other side of the country who he met online. He doesn't know or care what happens. He has no traveling experience, and no income, but the older man says he will pay for his trip. I've pleaded with him not to go, told him how much I love him. He went to counseling a few weeks and quit. I feel helpless. I searched criminal records on this person, I found some things, but don't have enough information to prove who this person is. What would a loving parent do with any authority? anyone have anything, information , sound advice?

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Edited by desireestar at 04/11/2010 10:22 AM PDT
cchristy
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From: Delaware
Registered: 11/22/09
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Re: My 17 year old daughter says she is gay

Nov 22, 2009 3:49 AM
Quite some time has passed since you posted. I truly hope that you and your daughter are in a better place.
I just joined today, and was drawn by your subject line. As a HS teacher, I am all too aware of the population (HS kids) and the activities some engage in. There are many pregnant girls, and there is a lot of visible PDA (public displays of affection) of every kind: boy/girl, girl/girl, even boy/boy. As a parent, I can say that the toughest thing to do is love someone enough to "let them go", but sometimes we have to do just that. I am certain that you would have similar concerns if your daughter was in an unhealthly relationship with a young man - not just a young lady!
I hope that by the time you read this your daughter is in a healthy relationship - not one centered on threats and other manipulative schemes - and that the two of you have figured a way to heal.
Cristina
LittleSister
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Re: My 17 year old daughter says she is gay

Nov 14, 2009 10:04 PM
What did you do, I need help with the same thing ! Only my daughter is 19 and this girl has been working on her for 3 yrs, but I know my daughter isn't a lesbian either. She has liked boys all her life - this girl just has gotten into her mind !
eeyore
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From: new york
Registered: 7/23/09
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My 17 year old daughter says she is gay

Jul 23, 2009 5:27 PM
My 17yr old daughter told me that she is a lesbian after being with a guy for 2years. She is very involved with this girl on line that I really don't get a good feeling about. When the two times that my daughter did try to leave the girl on line she went nuts told her that she was going to kill herself even showed my daughter that she was cutting her self. My daughter thinks that this is love. She wants nothing to do with me she wants me out of her life. I trying very hard to do just that but I also don't want her hurt. I know that there is no other way out of this but to let her fall but as a mother it is very hard. She states that I don't love her and all I do is give her anxiety attacks. Please help me to be strong with her