a 15 year old now staying with us started to chat yesterday. She mentioned that she met someone who is "14" and he lives in CA. He said she sounded sexy and wants a picture. I know I can block this however, is there someone I can turn this chat over to in case he is a prediator?
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perlon
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Aug 10, 2007 11:57 AM
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use software for kids...anti sx...etc
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Maureen
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Aug 9, 2007 9:38 AM
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Oxana, Thanks for posting about Crisp Age. For others reading this, grooming is basically the manipulation of a child to gain his or her trust for the purpose of sexual exploitation. (See "How to recognize grooming".)
Has anyone else tried Crisp Age or something similar? How did you like it, and how did your kids react?
Maureen Kochan
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Oxana
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Aug 9, 2007 8:20 AM
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As the mother of a 13 year old girl, I recently became concerned about the amount of time she was spending chatting on the internet. Every time I came into the room she seemed to hide what she was doing and was becoming increasingly withdrawn. Whilst I wanted her to have her privacy and independence, I became concerned, and looked around to see what products were on the market to protect her from any potentially abusive contact from others.
I wanted to allow her to have the freedom to communicate online and found many of the products on the market to be too restrictive; limiting what you could see and read online, managing your time spent on the Internet, or monitoring and logging all internet activity.
However, whilst on the BBC website I came across an article about a new product called Crisp Age anti-grooming software which you can currently download for free at www.protectingeachother.com.
The installation was straightforward – even for me! And, although there were a few moans at groans initially from my daughter about installing this, when she found out that I wouldn’t have free access to all her messages, she agreed to it.
With every conversation that goes on between individual users, it looks at 270-plus different elements to assess its nature.
If the conversations do appear suspicious and it seems a groomer is involved, the alarm is raised through an alert to the child by instant message, e-mail and SMS text message.
The parent is also informed and given access to the elements of the conversation that have triggered the alarm.
I certainly would recommend this product, as I feel more secure in the knowledge that this software is in place. Obviously, though, this is not a replacement for spending time with your child, making them feel they can talk openly to you about any worries they may have.
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Anne
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Aug 15, 2006 7:58 AM
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It's great that she actually mentioned she'd been chatting with someone and what he'd asked for. Certainly you can report potential predator activity to CyberTipline.com at the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, but it'd probably be best if you talked with her a little more first. Maybe ask how she knows he's 14 (did he offer to send her a picture?), because you've heard that online sexual predators sometimes say they're teenagers to get people talking, as well as say flattering things and request pictures. You could also ask her if she's ever read anything about how predators operate online and tell her about our short article, " How to recognize grooming," because informed online socializers know better how to protect themselves and their friends. Just a few ideas. Let us know how it goes. All best,
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TB
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Aug 15, 2006 7:03 AM
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a 15 year old now staying with us started to chat yesterday. She mentioned that she met someone who is "14" and he lives in CA. He said she sounded sexy and wants a picture. I know I can block this however, is there someone I can turn this chat over to in case he is a prediator?
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